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When Three Became Four

On the 12th November 2015 we woke up bright and early, packed ourselves in the car and headed to the hospital for the arrival of our youngest. After a not so straight forward birth with our eldest we had decided (after much discussion and many hospital appointments) to have a planned caesarean.

When we arrived at the hospital we were placed in a private room to relax and get ourselves prepared for the birth. They told us we were third on the list and to expect to be going in around 11am- it was 7am at this point, and after being nil by mouth from 10pm I was feeling particularly shakey and hungry (pregnancy and hunger are not a good mix!) After about an hour of doctors and nurses visiting, and final belly prodding, hubby was desperate for caffeine so nipped out to get a coffee. When he returned he was shocked to find me in my hospital gown ready for surgery and a nurse telling him to get into some scrubs. We’d been bumped up the list and were now second!!

Before we knew it, I was being taken through to theatre to meet our little girl. I was shocked by the amount of people in the room however very relaxed by the atmosphere and smiling faces. I like to be in control so the nurses were brilliant at telling me exactly what they were doing at all times as well as having me giggling away with their silly comments and jokes. We were also lucky enough that our hospital have Bluetooth iPod docking stations in each of their maternity theatres so I was able to have my phone with me and pick which music I wanted to listen to.

Due to a previous failed spinal block after my labour with our eldest and a slight curve in my spine, I was feeling very nervous about this part of the operation. However I was lucky to have one the hospital’s most senior Anaesthesiologists administer both the spinal anaesthetic and pain relief. And he succeeded in the first attempt!!! I felt so relieved and was then able to relax (well as much as I could when I knew what was about to happen). Once the spinal block was done, they laid me back on the bed and began preparing for the birth, the assistant Anaesthesiologist talked me through everything and after a few minutes, it was all under way.

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And within 10 minutes, at 10.52am they were lowering the screen to introduce me to our beautiful 7lb 14oz bundle of joy.

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Our little Allana was here, and arrived in a more relaxed way than I could ever have imagined a caesarean would or could be. Most importantly both her and I were healthy and there were no complications. As they keep the theatre at a low temperature to help with blood loss, they suggested baby and Daddy left after a while to warm up and have her second round of checks. Even after her birth the nurses kept me informed with everything that was happening and made me feel involved, even making me laugh whilst I was being ‘put back together.’

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I was wheeled up to the ward for recovery and finally got to have my long awaited cuddles with my Tiny Tot Allana. Unfortunately I was slightly poorly from all the medication and had a slight case of the shakes but it didn’t last too long and I was able to enjoy some rest before one of the best moments of my entire life.

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My Mum bought Willow up to the hospital to meet her baby sister, and it couldn’t have gone any more perfectly.

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An instant love between a Big and Little sister.

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And my Mum, a very proud Grandmother with her two Granddaughters.

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I loved having my Big Baby come to visit even if she didn’t fully understand how to be gentle with Mummy after an operation.

After a wonderful visit from my beautiful daughter, Mum, Grandma and friend I was ready to try to rest for the night before the madness would fully begin at home. Alana was a complete angel for me and whilst I was unable to get out of bed, the hospital staff were amazing, nothing was ever too much and they were always happy to help.

After a slightly traumatic birth with Willow, I was so pleased to have had a calm, relaxed delivery, even if it was via a caesarean. I was thankful to have had a wonderful midwife throughout my pregnancy who reassured me when I was trying to make a decision and had a million questions. Deciding to have a caesarean was one of the toughest decisions I’ve had to make, but also the bravest. I could have tried for a natural delivery but it may have caused life long health problems for myself which could have resulted in it also affecting my children’s lives. I was worried I would feel like a failure but it was the complete opposite, I felt proud and relieved by the decision I had made for both my baby and I.

There is still a stigma attached to caesareans and it needs to longer exist. Whether your baby is born via planned or emergency caesarean, natural birth, water birth, ventouse or forceps, we all have one thing in common. We are all Mothers and we all love our children, surely that is what matters most.

Thank you for reading, see you in my next post.

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21 thoughts on “When Three Became Four

  1. Allana is so beatiful. My wife was in labor for 36 hours with our daughter. So next time it was recommended she get the same procedure. You made the right decision, the health of you and Allana is what matters most.

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  2. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Huge congratulations on the safe arrival of your littlest. The photos of Willow meeting Allana are just the sweetest!
    I’m currently having a dilemma about birth number two after having a rather traumatic delivery with my first. Did you face much opposition from the health service? Also, how was your recovery with a toddler to look after? xx

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    1. Thank you, their first meeting was perfect and she’s still all over her now!
      I didn’t face any opposition from the health service, they were brilliant the whole way through my pregnancy and left the decision completely up to me. They told me the pros and cons and gave me lots of information to take away, and I wasn’t pushed to go either way. I found the recovery a lot easier than I thought I would, I didn’t necessarily follow the strict guidelines they give you for after surgery (I’m not too good at taking it easy!) but within 1 week I was no longer needing pain relief and by week 4 I didn’t even feel like I’d had a major operation. I think a lot of it is mind over matter and remaining positive.
      My only advice would be to take your time making your decision and try not to worry about or be persuaded by what anyone else thinks or says. I didn’t make my decision until I was gone 30 weeks, and even then I was told I could change my mind at any time if I liked.
      I wish you all the best with the birth of baby number two, and I hope whatever you decide you have a wonderful and memorable experience xx

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      1. That is a real comfort to hear. I’d been panicking that I’d left it too late to ask with being 28 weeks at the moment. I also keep changing my mind almost daily as I have been worrying about the unknown of a c-sec recovery. You really have put my mind at ease. I’ll definitely be asking at my midwife appointment next week. Thank you so much for all of your help 🙂 xx

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      2. You’re more than welcome, I’m glad I’ve been of some help. Good luck at your next midwife appointment, if you have any other questions in the coming weeks then please don’t hesitate to point them in my direction 🙂 xx

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  3. Ah congratulations she is beautiful! No birth is easy no matter how it goes, what matters is at the end of it you and the baby are healthy. I had a semi emergency C Section with my little one, and remember the coldness, the shakes, and so much itchy-ness afterwards, but had a beautiful daughter. I hope that the recovery wasn’t too bad for you. Claire x #abitofeverything

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    1. Thank you, the recovery wasn’t too bad at all, I was very lucky. I hope you had a good recovery too. I completely agree that no birth is easy, but the little baby at the end is always worth it 🙂 x

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  4. This is a fantastic post! I am going through something similar at the moment at 29 weeks today the delivery is seemingly looming and we did not have a good delivery with Monkey. I have added complications as well which they are currently keeping under control however may cause issues further down the line. A c-section is on our list of possibilities more than ever. It’s great to hear a good news story. Thank you for joining us at #BloggerClubUK hope to see you again next week X

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    1. Thank you, I’m sure you’ll see me again next week. I hope they’re able to keep your complications at bay through the rest of your pregnancy, and I wish you all the best with your delivery, whatever type of delivery you have xx

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